To Love or Not to Love, What’s Your Thought on This?

Love is Patient, Love is Kind

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Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrong. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. I Corinthians 13: 4-7

Could you be love?

Would you be loved?

Patience and diligence and perseverance are best when approaching love. Everyone deserves to say yes to both questions. Having the faith inside your heart to say yes is critical. Faith comes from perseverance. Love, though, starts in the heart. It is a patient journey that takes time and effort and lots of patience. Love, however, is important to the quality of life we live on many levels, certainly, for us as well as those we show love to. It lessens any pain we may feel as we deal with life and the situations surrounding us.

The chapter in 1 Corinthians, deals with everything we can do as people, and yet the writer reminds us that is we don’t have love, in our hearts for others, then we’re wasting our efforts.

Could you be love?

Seems straightforward, right? Could you give your time to someone you know wanted to exploit you? Could you do something for someone because they asked, though you know they secretly hold you in contempt? Could you love someone you know doesn’t love you back?

It isn’t always easy to express genuine love for people. We do not make it easy on one another all the time. But, love forgives when needed, just like God forgives and moves on. Patience again is called for. The same patient love that endured generations of sin, putting in endless work in order to salvage who he can when judgment times rolls around. Worth it when we understand love and the benefits in terms of how we feel – heart, mind, health, energy.

I believe we can, if we are willing to put aside pride and some of the things we want in order to help other people’s growth. Sometimes that means giving up the things we believe we deserve in order to help lend your energy to something worthwhile. There are times love simply means being silent and listening to one of our neighbors without saying a word. When we express love like this we become much better for it in the short and long.

Would you be loved?

Although everyone will say, yes the truth is, this is harder than loving someone. The things we learn in life as we grow sometimes clash with the reality of being easily lovable. Most of us grow up depending on our own strength or believing our ego and pride – victims. I will admit to this.

Being loved asks us to sacrifice our pain and our experiences and our needs sometimes so others can feel like there is an open door to loving us. Sounds weird and it does, in a way fall under the conditional love category, or does it. Conditional love can turn in to unconditional love. Patience is required, Lord only knows. Truth be told, while we believe it is easy for people to love us, self-reflection says no, most times. We sometimes need to fold into the comfort zone of other people to allow them to see love, and begin to express love. Perseverance is required here, but so worth it. Not everyone grows up in a loving environment and a lot of what they grew up with, becomes their normal. Willingness to correct in kindness, honesty, quick forgiveness, and vigilance will help to overcome their pain. They all have to work together.

Love is a balancing act. It’s trusting that the love inside you will overwhelm the need for your pride and ego to take center stage, even if that means you stay in the background holding the bag while the others enjoy the food. Gives a clear explanation to why God hates pride and ego but shows appreciation for confidence. Once I had confidence in loving others and letting go of the experiences God has brought me through, I saw that giving love was the better choice for every situation I faced. Patient. Kind. Merciful. Just. Humble. Forgiving. Pure. Love is the answer to a lot of what ails us.

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